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I am trying so so so so hard today. Today is notsogood. Why am I slipping back into all of this? I thought I was better. : (
Because it comes and goes, like a wave that rushes over you too powerfully, then recedes, leaving you exhausted and spent. Ride the wave; you are doing the right things, looking at self-talk. Sometimes sadness is two steps forward, one back, but you are still one step ahead!
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If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave, we should not be surprised when they behave in those ways.
And we should not be surprised when they behave these ways during attempted or completed rapes.
Women who are taught not to speak up too loudly or too forcefully or too adamantly or too demandingly are not going to shout “NO” at the top of their goddamn lungs just because some guy is getting uncomfortably close.
Women who are taught not to keep arguing are not going to keep saying “NO.”
Women who are taught that their needs and desires are not to be trusted, are fickle and wrong and are not to be interpreted by the woman herself, are not going to know how to argue with “but you liked kissing, I just thought…”
Women who are taught that physical confrontations make them look crazy will not start hitting, kicking, and screaming until it’s too late, if they do at all.
Women who are taught that a display of their emotional state will have them labeled hysterical and crazy (which is how their perception of events will be discounted) will not be willing to run from a room disheveled and screaming and crying.
Women who are taught that certain established boundaries are frowned upon as too rigid and unnecessary are going to find themselves in situations that move further faster before they realize that their first impression was right, and they are in a dangerous room with a dangerous person.
Women who are taught that refusing to flirt back results in an immediately hostile environment will continue to unwillingly and unhappily flirt with somebody who is invading their space and giving them creep alerts.
People wonder why women don’t “fight back,” but they don’t wonder about it when women back down in arguments, are interrupted, purposefully lower and modulate their voices to express less emotion, make obvious signals that they are uninterested in conversation or being in closer physical proximity and are ignored. They don’t wonder about all those daily social interactions in which women are quieter, ignored, or invisible, because those social interactions seem normal. They seem normal to women, and they seem normal to men, because we were all raised in the same cultural pond, drinking the same Kool-Aid.
And then, all of a sudden, when women are raped, all these natural and invisible social interactions become evidence that the woman wasn’t truly raped. Because she didn’t fight back, or yell loudly, or run, or kick, or punch. She let him into her room when it was obvious what he wanted. She flirted with him, she kissed him. She stopped saying no, after a while.
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Oh my god, this. All of this.
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Always reblog this. Always.
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EXACTLY!
I know it will never be possible, but what happens if we start electing people based on merit, rather than who they know… think about it.
Woah man, far out.
I know, I blew your mind, right?
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Strippr: Rules for Dating (this) Dancer: →
I swear if I ever have to go through the dating process again (and I hope I don’t), I’m handing this out to all prospective dates. It’s my version, so surely it doesn’t represent all (or even most) dancers, of course. I’m seriously considering giving this to the significant other (see previous…
Great post. Great insights.
Fave tumblr post of the year.
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High Heels, Short Skirts, and Dog Hair: This Message Brought to You by Body Positivity →
The BMI system is utter crap.
1. It doesn’t take into account muscle weight. Or bone weight for that matter. Really weight in general isn’t a good indicator of your health. Everyone’s weight settles differently; a better way of figuring out if your body is under stress…
My daughter was an athlete in high school. She was powerful and little stocky with a dense bone and muscle struture. She had low body fat, yet was told by a doctor *who saw her almost daily at the gym* that she was obese based on her BMI score. She was 13, and she cried for a week.
I switched doctors that day after reaming him for his insensitivity and his reliance on a bullshit measure.
A recent study showed that 25% of NFL athletes, many with a body fat % below 10%, were obese based on BMI.
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“There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves Orcs.”
-John Rogers
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Reblog if you truly enjoy giving oral sex.
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They still blame these dogs. I had a German Shepherd at one point and a lady asked: “aren’t you afraid they he’ll attack you?” No, I’m not afraid of him attacking, I treated my dog well, I love and care for him. He’s like my brother. It’s not in dogs nature to attack humans. In fact, most animal instinct is to run from humans. With any animal, you treat them badly, they’ll attack in self defense. Isn’t that like most living things? Humans do it, and animals do it too. I think it’s a load of bull shit that they think it’s the dog’s fault for being aggressive and not the humans…
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